it is alive Leaxanna. The forum is a bit underused right now, likely due somewhat to the new(ish) Discord forum. Tarnished Coast Discord Server link: https://discord.gg/Ht2xB5d What time zone do you usually play? I seem to recall Sea or Ocx but not sure. Welcome back if you decide to play!
I don't have any words of wisdom as far as how to cope, I wish I did. I went through something similar in the past with both my parents who were facing major health crises. Our system for liver transplants sux here in the US. It is very hard to contemplate losing people so close to us. They are lucky to have you. One thing though, you would be surprised at what people will give on a https://www.gofundme.com/ site. they have categories for medical emergencies and other emergencies. As we have seen in this gaming community alone people do come together to help in very dramatic ways. So reaching out there may help to lessen at least the financial load. I know one friend whose father needed a modified handicap van and was able to get that done. Also depending on where you live, United Way and Aging and Disability Resource centers can be helpful as well. And as others mentioned, take care of yourself. Meditation, believe it or not, (not religious necessarily but just mindful) can help to ease the pain and sadness. places like www.calm.com, www.omvana.com etc have free ones, as well as on youtube.com such as https://youtu.be/EaRu14P9H84
thank you for sharing what you are going through. being with people who appreciate you and can give you at least a virtual hug can help too.
and the nice thing is having more than one guild slot! woot! list of guilds http://tarnished-coast.com/forum/index.php?/forum/11-guilds/ and ODIN http://tarnished-coast.com/forum/index.php?/topic/124-odin-valkyrja-söngur/
I think mentorship has decreased in the game from when it first started though as well. When I stepped into WvW for the first time there were friendly individuals who were willing to "show me the ropes" and tell me what to look for or do, people like Disco or Xerica and Maz when CERN was shiny new, or commanders like Kittaine or Azeroth or Jadon willing to show new players where siege could be placed etc. I do think that motivation plays a role as well, do people want to know the community and resources or are they happy just playing the game. For example I also sought out opportunities to learn more and be more involved. it is fine either way, but keeping in the loop and being a guild leader or a commander requires a bit more work.